Ooh, I'm artsy

I was standing in my kitchen Thursday night around 11 o'clock. I'd just finished working on Scholastic book orders for Fruit Bat's class and was waiting for Trixie, my rice sock, to take a few spins around the microwave.

I was thinking about J. coming home (he's been gone since Thursday morning) and how every time he leaves and then returns, we go through this period of re-immersion, where the kids and I have to (get to) adjust to his presence around the house again.

It's always great to have him home, but hard too. I've gotten used to doing things my way. That is, when I'm not doing things Kitty Cat's way. 

And then he comes in with opinions and ideas. To which I often react defensively. Defensiveness always goes over well.

So when we see him tonight, I will cast aside my pissy and vinegary self for sweetness. I will nod and smile when he makes suggestions. I will do my best not to look so damn haunted. Because withdrawn and spooky are kind of turn offs. 

For most people, anyway.

Comments

[all things BD]

My hubby works in the video game industry, and when projects are getting ready to ship, he's gone every evening, including weekends, sometimes for months at a time.

When he comes back, it's the honeymoon period all over again. Seriously, do you have to be here with your ideas and your suggestions and your BREATHING?

I feel ya.

[leslie]

My husband also works in the video game industry, as the previous commenter....anyway....

I am finding lately that even on weekends I start feeling weird because things are not on my schedule, done according to my plan and on my timeline. I am not sure how to deal with it. Except to keep us busy, because it's the 'hanging around' time that really gets to me. Then even I don't recognize myself.

[vodkamom]

can I sign my husband up for working away from home??? show me where to sign........

[JCK]

Here's to good luck with that. :) Great intentions and intentions help.

You are artsy. I like that photo.

[Michele]

I never look that good at 11 o'clock at night. How do you do it?

JR & I spent 6 months apart a couple of years ago. Work related not relationship related. The adjustment period was harder on me then him. I had stop doing things all my way and start to include him. Not easy. Plus the snoring!

Now, sometimes I wish he'd go out of town so I could have the house to myself. Just for a little while.

[Missives From Suburbia]

I used to feel this way, but now that I'm suffering the demands of a two-year-old for 24 hours a day, for the past seven days (and six more ahead of me!) I'm dying for my husband to return. That said, I'm sure once he gets here, I'll be irritated with his breathing and opinions, too.

[Cha Cha]

I lived with a man who traveled constantly. No one seems to admit how freakishly hard it is! There's no consistency and you go from being queen to being a partner, and that's rough on the ol' brain. Give yourself some credit for keeping it all together, and be kind to yourself.

Thanks for your kind words over at my blog. And thanks for introducting yourself - I'll be back.

[Emily R]

Every week; we go through this every week.

[kcinnova]

As any military wife could tell you, it is never easy to reintegrate.

[slouching mom]

oh, god. it is so totally the same dynamic at our house. to say that this resonates with me would be understatement.